Why I do youth ministry

“So, why do we call Jesus the Passover lamb?”

Several hands reached for the ceiling and I called on a blonde, spirited seventh-grade girl named Kara. Like many of her peers, she had raised her hand before actually formulating a response.

“Because, um, Jesus was… like…”

I waited patiently for Kara to finish her thought. Her face was starting to wrinkle and contort in hopes that the answer would soon arrive. It didn’t. I looked around the room for another vertical fleshy stick, and as I began to point at another student, I was abruptly interrupted.

“OH!” Kara blurted, with her eyes lighting up and back her straightening as she experienced her eureka moment. “So. Just like how they used to sacrifice a lamb during Passover and put the blood on the doorposts to, like, protect them from evil [Exodus 12:1-13], that’s like how Jesus sacrificed himself and gave up his blood to, um, save us from sin [John 1:29]. And that’s what Jesus meant when he said ‘This is my blood, shed for you’!”

I nearly broke into song as I said, “YES! That’s exactly right.” And I thought to myself, This is why I do youth ministry.

Shift conference: Complexity and simplicity

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Brian McLaren, originally uploaded by jakebouma on flickr.

It’s day two of the Shift conference at Willow Creek in Chicago, and it’s been going pretty well. Yesterday there were three main sessions, with Brian McLaren, Mark Yaconelli, and Shane Claiborne, and they were all great. At points throughout the sessions, I laughed, cried, and gained some insight and wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post any of my notes from the past day and a half, because much of what I’ve been mulling over boils down to the question of the seemingly simultaneous complexity and simplicity of the gospel and its implications. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, keep reading. This morning at Brian McLaren’s Onramp to Postmodernism discussion, there was a Q&A session in which I decided to go up and ask for his insight into the matter. I really liked his response, and I recorded both the question and his answer for your listening pleasure.

Click here for the mp3 of my question and Brian McLaren’s answer (03:58, 3.7mb)

I looked up the quote he’s referring to (read: “Googled”), and it comes from former U.S. Supreme Court Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. He said, “I would not give a fig for the simplicity this side of complexity, but I would give my life for the simplicity on the other side of complexity.” Do you know what he’s saying? Do you understand how awesome that is? I totally dig that.

Anyways, there are several people blogging and Twittering from the conference; Gavin has a roundup (actually, I met the guy thanks to Twitter). I started using hashtags to track tweets from the conference, so check the hashtag page for #shift08 to see all of the various comments and perspectives, and be sure to keep up with my Twitter feed as well.

JakeBouma.com hits the bigtime! (thanks, Ken Silva)

A while back, my friend Josh Brown pointed out that Ken Silva is a great watchdog. He even presented him with the snazzy image/award at the top of this post. Well, he was absolutely right.

Josh’s basic beef was that Ken scours emergent-ish blogs for fodder on his own fundamentalist, anti-emerging “blog” (I use quotes because he doesn’t allow comments), where he warns “believers” of the cancerous effects of all things emergent.

Anyway, this is all to get to the point that Ken recently wrote a post entitled “The Emerging Church Swallowing Youth” (I won’t link to it; he doesn’t deserve the Google juice) in which he links to the interview I did with Tony Jones and then claims that “the Emergent Church has been using your young as spiritual guinea pigs”. Woohoo! I hit the bigtime - a link from Ken Silva!

Oh, and then he gives his warning:

Well, know this: In the eyes of our Lord, by your not speaking up at your local churches, you are responsible for allowing this Emergent rebellion against the Bible to swallow up a whole generation of evangelical young—a kind of spiritual abortion—in their “fertile training ground” for this man-centered emerging church apostasy.

So in the name of full disclosure, I align with many of the theological and philosophical underpinnings of the emerging conversation. Indeed, my spiritual journey has been decidedly enriched by it. However: If you’re reading this — and you go to my church — please, please speak up and do something about my heretical tendencies. All of the 40+ students in my ministry are in grave danger.

Oh yeah, and thanks again for the link, Ken.

Four must-see documentaries about teens (or, How to fully understand teenagers in under 8 hours)

Okay, okay. The title of this post is admittedly hyperbolic. But my point is that there are some fantastic documentaries being made about teenagers - four of which are listed below. Please leave a comment if there’s another documentary that should be on this list!

Frontline: Growing Up Online (2008, whole program online for free)

A tip of the hat to Brian at Rethinking Youth Ministry for this one. I have yet to watch it, but I plan on doing so once this post is finished.

In “Growing Up Online”, FRONTLINE takes viewers inside the very public private worlds that kids are creating online, raising important questions about how the Internet is transforming childhood. “The Internet and the digital world was something that belonged to adults, and now it’s something that really is the province of teenagers, ” says C.J. Pascoe, a postdoctoral scholar with the University of California, Berkeley’s Digital Youth Research project.

Frontline: The Merchants of Cool (2001, whole program online for free)

I first saw this documentary during my student ministry internship in the summer of 2005, and it impacted me so much that I referenced it two years later in my senior thesis. Even though it is a bit outdated (which throws many of the figures and facts out of whack), the gist of the film is still quite relevant - alarming, even.

They are the merchants of cool: creators and sellers of popular culture who have made teenagers the hottest consumer demographic in America. But are they simply reflecting teen desires or have they begun to manufacture those desires in a bid to secure this lucrative market? And have they gone too far in their attempts to reach the hearts–and wallets–of America’s youth?

Soul Searching: A Movie About Teenagers and God (2007, DVD)

I ordered this documentary after reading Tony Jones’ review. It’s sitting on my desk waiting to be watched.

Based on the book, Soul Searching: The Religious and Spiritual Lives of American Teenagers, by Christian Smith and Melinda Lundquist Denton, which reports on research conducted over a seven year period by the National Study of Youth and Religion. Featuring interviews with the books authors, youth pastors, and teenagers from around the country, this compelling documentary illustrates some of the major themes and findings of the book, and goes behind the book in depicting the inner lives of a sample of American teenagers. Find out what these teenagers really think about God and religion, what their hopes and aspirations are, and what the research says about the effects of religion in their lives.

American Teen (2008, not yet in theatres)

This documentary just debuted at the Sundance Film Festival. The folks at /Film gave it a review that totally piqued my interest.

Set in the small typical midwestern town of Warsaw, Indiana, American Teen follows a self absorbed Cheerleader, a loser video game playing band geek, the basketball star, and the artsy outcast. While at first glance, these descriptions serve as cliche social stereotypes, you will be surprised at how three dimensional these kids are. The drama that is their senior year is both fun, emotional, and at times horrifying. This observational documentary plays out uncensored, giving an surprisingly accurate look at a group of TRL-generation teenagers.

Encouraging a growth mind-set in students

A great new article in Scientific American, The Secret to Raising Smart Kids, discusses human motivation and encouraging a “growth mind-set” in children and adolescents. Lots of good stuff in there:

This belief [that intelligence is innate] also makes them see challenges, mistakes and even the need to exert effort as threats to their ego rather than as opportunities to improve. And it causes them to lose confidence and motivation when the work is no longer easy for them.

There is clearly a link here to youth ministry and encouraging/equipping students to grow in their Christian faith. Some students are just better at being “students of Christianity” than others, which means that the onus is on youth workers for teaching our students to have a “growth mind-set” as the article says. Check this out:

In the growth mind-set classes, students read and discussed an article entitled “You Can Grow Your Brain.” They were taught that the brain is like a muscle that gets stronger with use and that learning prompts neurons in the brain to grow new connections. From such instruction, many students began to see themselves as agents of their own brain development. Students who had been disruptive or bored sat still and took note. One particularly unruly boy looked up during the discussion and said, “You mean I don’t have to be dumb?”

Now, some of you might be saying, “We [youth pastors] should just be loving on kids and teaching them that Jesus loves them.” First of all, please don’t ever use any form of the phrase “love on” ever again. Second, teaching kids that Jesus loves them approaches pointlessness if they have no grasp of context. Context within the biblical canon (How does Jesus’ teaching relate to and interact with the Old Testament?), context within history (What was the first century C.E. like, and how did it influence Jesus’ ministry?), and so on.

Obviously there’s much more that can be taught, but I’m just making a point that youth ministry involves quite a bit of straight-up teaching. This has become a stark reality to me in the few short months I have been teaching Lutheran confirmation. It follows, then, that articles like the one mentioned above should make us think critically about youth ministry.

For more on adolescent brain science, be sure check out The Primal Teen.

The Primal Teen: Book review

The Primal Teen: What the New Discoveries about the Teenage Brain Tell Us about Our Kids

I first heard about Barbara Strauch’s The Primal Teen from Mark Oestreicher (a.k.a. ysmarko) on his blog, and then in person when he plugged it during his seminar on middle school ministry at the 2007 National Youth Workers Convention.

The basic premise of the entire book is that new findings in the field of neuroscience (scientific study of the brain) are proving that many stereotypes and/or assumptions about adolescents have a biological foundation. “Teenagers may, indeed, be a bit crazy,” says Strauch in the Introduction, “but they are crazy according to a primal blueprint; they are crazy by design” (xiv).

Analyzed in light of recent scientific findings are many of the things traditionally associated with adolescence, such as impulsiveness, out-of-character and shady behavior, experimentation (drugs, sex, etc.), raging hormones, puppy love, sleeping too much, and so on. Many of these things have something to do with the prefrontal cortex, which is essentially the decision-making and impulse-resisting center of the brain. Adolescent bodies develop faster than the adolescent prefrontal cortex, and although a “teenager may outwardly look like a mountain of maturity to us… it’s an illusion” (36).

There’s a lot of great stuff in this book. If you’ve ever been puzzled by a teenager and asked the question “Why on earth does s/he do that!?”, this book has a lot of answers. It challenges us to look at adolescence as more than an awkward stage of bodily growth and social unrest; adolescence, scientists are finding, is period in which brain development rivals that of early childhood.

As a professional youth worker, I highly recommend this book, both to fellow youth workers and parents alike. For youth workers, you’ll see your job in a whole new way. In addition to encouraging kids in the Way of Jesus, we’ll begin to see our ministry as vital to the biological development of adolescents. The implications here are huge. Things we do (and the way we do them) in youth ministry will not only affect the rest of teenagers’ lives spiritually, they will affect the rest of their lives biologically - we are, quite literally, molding their brains.

I have just one caveat. The book was published in 2003, which means most of the research and interviews were likely conducted in 2002 and before. As we approach 2008, this book nears its fifth birthday, and five years in the field of neuroscience is a LONG time. So the book is a bit dated, but it’s still relevant. As far as I know, there haven’t been any similar (and similarly accesible) books since The Primal Teen was published.

I’d like to end this review with a quote in the book from an 18 year old guy named Stuart which I think accurately sums up the book. He says,

I think one of the biggest changes I notice is that my mind seems to see things in a more complex, complicated kind of way now… It’s like for the first time, my brain can ask “what if” (202).

May we be courageous enough to encourage adolescents to ask “what if”. Their biological development may depend on it.

Reflections on the National Youth Workers Convention

Now that I’ve had a few days to collect my thoughts, talk with friends, and reflect on my experience at the National Youth Workers Convention, here are a few things I’ve been mulling over.

The next time I go, I won’t go alone. I’ll invite my volunteers and/or coworkers. More than once I thought to myself “I wish my volunteers were listening to this.”

I wish there had been more mainline protestant speakers. Marko has been outspoken in the fact that getting these people to speak at the convention is a difficult endeavor (”we ask two or three times as many people as we get!”), and I understand. It’s also true that my experience with NYWC is extremely limited, and they’ve had many mainline speakers in the past. Although certain speakers left a sour taste in my mouth, I think that the diversity is ultimately a good thing. Productive conversation and progress can’t occur with only one theological party present.

As a side note, I wasn’t the only one who had problems with Greg Stier’s talk. In fact, it’s kind of “blown up” in the blogosphere. If you’re interested, check out Marko’s email conversation with someone who was extremely offended and be sure to read all of the comments, where the speaker himself even gets involved. Greg has a post on his own blog as well called YS fallout continues.

But that’s all water under the bridge. I think my favorite seminar might have been Tony Campolo’s “What Youth Ministers Can Learn from Sociologists” (I would post my notes, but my MS Word is being obnoxious). Good youth ministry is inherently affected and influenced by other academic disciplines such as sociology, neuroscience, computer science (technology), linguistics, gender studies, psychology, and so on. Why not invite some leaders in these fields to come and talk about what they’re learning and discovering in regards to youth? They don’t even necessarily need to make their message relate to ministry; the point would be to simply inform youth workers, who are working intimately with youth, what the heck is going on with them from multiple perspectives. My mind was blown when Marko, in his “A New Vision for Middle School Ministry” seminar, talked about new research in neuroscience as it relates to young teens. What if whole seminars were devoted to such topics? My point here is that youth ministry needs to be well-informed and not huddled into its own corner of the universe.

There were a couple of “Book Clubs” available, but I would like to see this made a bit more prominent within the conference. For example, when people register for the event, Youth Specialties could suggest 5-10 books (and comp them?) to read before arriving at the conference. There would then be multiple meeting times for individual groups that read particular books, perhaps even moderated by the author him/herself.

Overall, I was pleased with the conference and I can see myself going back again for sure. Although there were a couple of things that I didn’t like, I found a way to make the conference really benefit myself and my ministry, and Youth Specialties should be thanked for building that kind of freedom into their conference.

NYWC ‘07 Day 4: A new vision


look! i’m friends with tim from starfield, originally uploaded by jakebouma on flickr.

Before I begin, you should know that the picture above is way funnier if you 1) watch the Colbert Report and/or 2) know who Starfield is.

Today was a little more relaxed than yesterday. I went to two seminars and tonight’s general session and also did a bit of reading on my own, which was nice.

The first seminar I attended was entitled “The Greening of Youth Ministry: Why Your Youth Group Should Care for the Earth”, hosted by Peter Illyn of Restoring Eden. There weren’t that many people in attendance, which made me both feel bad for Peter and sent the message (to me) that people still don’t really think environmental concerns are a legit topic of discussion in Youth Ministry. I hope YS brings Peter back (this was his first time at the NYWC) and promotes his sessions more. One of the reasons environmental concerns are not addressed in youth ministry, as Peter pointed out, is that in our culture it’s always associated with politics. “The issue,” Peter said, “is not how we make environmental concerns non-political, it’s how we make them non-partisan.” Right on.

The second seminar I attended was “A New Vision for Middle School Ministry” with Mark Oestreicher (a.k.a. ysmarko), the president of Youth Specialties. It was absolutely fantastic. Marko combines information from sociology, psychology, brain science, theology, and other areas of study to fuel his own reflection on middle school ministry and his seminar was a well-presented distillation of these studies and observations. I am for sure going to get an mp3 of his seminar and give it to my confirmation volunteers; it was just excellent.

The general session featured Leeland and Starfield leading worship (both great bands) and Greg Stier as the speaker. Again, I was not pleased with his message at all. He is a passionate Christian to be sure, but his message was way off mark (in my humble opinion). Essentially he told us that the only thing that matters in youth ministry is “preaching Christ and Him crucified”, and that youth ministry has “gotten off track” as of late. Aside from making sweeping generalizations, he preached “the gospel” from 1 Corinthians, and not one of the gospels. He didn’t once reference Jesus’ earthly ministry, referenced the resurrection once, and beat the cross and crucifixion to death (no pun intended).

I don’t mean to bash the guy - seriously, he is totally passionate and committed - but his message is like the antithesis of what I want my youth ministry to be. In my paper Toward A Postmodern Youth Ministry: An Examination of Postmodern Youth Culture in Conversation with the Emerging Church I quote Pete Rollins, who says, “In a world where people believe they are not hungry, we must not offer food but rather an aroma that helps them desire the food that we cannot provide.” I felt like Greg was all about shoving food down kids’ throats.

And finally, a quick rant. This convention makes CDs and mp3s of every general session and individual seminar available for purchase at the ridiculous price of $6 per mp3 and $8 per CD. Seriously, Youth Specialties? Not only did we already pay a bunch of money to attend the convention, but you’re going to charge us more for something we potentially already paid for? In an age of $0.99 music downloads, you still feel that it’s cool to charge me the price many Youth Specialties books for what’s essentially a 90 minute podcast. Additionally, you’re actually being biased towards bigger churches with the higher price: If I could afford to bring 5 people to the conference and we all went to a different seminar, I wouldn’t have to buy as many seminar mp3s. But since I’m the only person here from my church, I have to buy more mp3s on a smaller budget. Doesn’t that seem counterintuitive? I mean, it’s not the end of the world, and it didn’t “ruin” my experience, just something to think about (that means you, Marko, if you’re reading this).

Tomorrow marks the conclusion of the conference and my return home, which reminds me - I need to pack.

NYWC ‘07 Day 3: New faces


rob bell - everything is spiritual, originally uploaded by jakebouma on flickr.

Unfortunately I don’t have much time to write about yesterdays events, even though it was my favorite day thus far. The wireless internet was so log jammed last night that I couldn’t even check my email, let alone post something here.

I had a one hour “personal youth ministry consultation” with Mark Riddle yesterday morning, and it was fantastic. He helped me see that my current situation is very good compared to many other youth workers, and answered some smaller questions I had about specific things. We discussed how I could more effectively run the youth ministry at St. Mark, as the more abstract thinker that I am. Really good stuff. Mark, if you’re reading this, thanks a lot… I appreciate you taking the time to meet with me.

After lunch I met briefly with Tim Schmoyer and his wife, and we talked about youth ministry (duh), blogging and other stuff.

In the afternoon I went to a session called “What Youth Ministers Can Learn from Sociologists” with Tony Campolo. His seminar blew my mind. He talked first about sociological perspectives on counseling and how the pre-Freud view of counseling valued reconciliation and community, while the post-Freud view values the self-actualization of the individal, or “save yourself” mentality. Later on he talked about the importance of ritual in religion and family life and then went on to answer questions for an hour or so. I have lots of notes and quotes from the seminar that I’ll post later.

At the session w/Tony Campolo I met a youth director from the St. Louis area named Adam Mustoe. We talked for a while and he invited me to eat dinner with him and five of his ministry volunteers. Good times.

Finally, after the late general session in which Doug Fields spoke about “ministry envy”, I went to a screening of Rob Bell’s new DVD, Everything Is Spiritual. It’s basically an 80-minute combination of biblical hermeneutics, explanations of anthropic fine-tuning, apologetics, scientific history, and jokes that somehow manages to be compelling the entire time. While I’m not sure all of the ideas therein would stand the test of scholarly scrutiny, they certainly make sense on a giant whiteboard.

NYWC ‘07 Day 2: Mixed feelings


*dcb - wholly yours, originally uploaded by jakebouma on flickr.

To be totally honest, I’m not quite sure how to approach blogging about the event thus far, because some things I have totally enjoyed and others I haven’t. Now, I know it’s only the second day and I have a lot more great things left to do and experience, but some things have rubbed me the wrong way. Let me explain.

First, I will go on the record and say I didn’t appreciate (understand?) Chris Hill’s message. I appreciated his passion and conviction, just not his conclusions. For those who aren’t here at the conference, he spoke about the story of Absalom in 2 Samuel, and through a series of verbal gymnastics made it (kind of) relate to youth workers. I think we were all supposed to feel encouraged and empowered by it, but I just felt deflated and saddened that people actually were encouraged and empowered.

Second, I feel like this conference in a lot of ways is like a mirror image of the very culture that many people here feel compelled to damn. When I walk into the exhibit hall, I am pretty much seen only as a subscriber, a buyer, a consumer of whatever this or that company is marketing. Of course there are resources and companies and products here that I find extremely useful, and indeed have used in my own ministry, but something definitely smells fishy.

Now, those things being said, I am actually still having an enjoyable and enlightening time. YS has brought in an artist by the name of Joe Castillo who creates mind-blowing (seriously, my mind was blown at one point), constantly-changing pieces of art out of sand that he calls SandStories. I have personally found this to be one of the most worshipful aspects of the event thus far.

My interest in theology got the better of me today. I went to Tony Jones’ seminar “Theological Tools for Your Youth Ministry Toolbox” and later went to an informal discussion on theology that were both great. More than once in both sessions I thought to myself, “Dude, you have to go to seminary.” Seriously.

Finally, they screened the newest Nooma video. Of course it was good, but I’m eagerly anticipating the screening of other new DVD, Everything Is Spiritual, tomorrow night.

Busy day tomorrow, but before I go I’ll leave you with the “quote of the day”:

“I’m not trying to say that subjectivity is good, I’m saying it’s all there is.” - Tony Jones

Chew on that.

NYWC ‘07 Day 1: Sensory overload


Youth Specialties owns St. Louis, originally uploaded by jakebouma on flickr.

As I was exploring the exhibit hall and all of the various booths, someone asked me how I was doing and I replied, “I’m kind of in sensory overload right now.” There is A LOT to take in here. So many orginizations pitching their “ministry transforming” software or mission trip or magazine, so many publishing companies selling the newest and hottest youth ministry books, so many NYWC staff members, and of course so many youth workers - I hardly know what to do with myself. I’ll settle in, I’m sure, but I guess I wasn’t really prepared for the spectacle of it all.

Anyhow, the traveling went smoothly. I sat next to a man named Michael Maddock on the way down here (if you’re reading this, Michael, thanks for visiting!). I told him that I was in town for the convention and he talked about how he and his wife attend St. John Lutheran Church (LCMS) in a suburb of St. Louis. I would visit it on Sunday, but there’s just too much stuff to do.

I’m trying to take advantage of my time here, and one of the ways I’ve done that so far is by signing up for a personal youth ministry consultation with Mark Riddle (a good deal, considering his company does this stuff professionally). We’ll meet for an hour on Saturday morning - I’m totally pumped.

I’m pretty tired from traveling today and there’s really not much to say yet, so I’ll just conclude the post by posting my tentative schedule for tomorrow.

  • 10:00 - 11:30am: Seminar - What Monks Can Teach Us: Helping Students Discover the Ancient Art of Listening to the Voice of God, with Dave Ambrose
  • 1:00 - 3:30pm: General Session - Speaker: Duffy Robbins, Worship leader: David Crowder Band
  • 4:00 - 5:00pm: Seminar - Theological Tools for Your Youth Ministry Toolbox, with Tony Jones
  • 7:30 - 10:00pm: General Session - Speaker: Chris Hill, Worship leader: David Crowder Band
  • 10:15 - 11:15pm: Mini-seminar - So You Want to Get Published, with Jay Howver
  • I’m out.

    Blogging from the National Youth Workers Convention

    I will be blogging from St. Louis, Missouri this Thursday through Monday, where I’m attending the National Youth Workers Convention, an event organized by Youth Specialties.

    In addition to seven “general sessions” with great speakers and worship leaders (David Crowder Band, Starfield, et al.) there are a bunch of smaller seminars that I’m really excited about. I don’t know if I’ll be able to attend every one I want (because some are at the same time), but here are a few I’d particularly like to attend:

  • Red Letter Christians: Defining Progressive Evangelicalism, with Tony Campolo
  • Theological Tools for Your Youth Ministry Toolbox, with Tony Jones
  • So You Want to Get Published, with Jay Howver
  • Small Church, Big Times: How to Build Creativity into the Small Church Youth Ministry, with Lilly Lewin
  • What Youth Ministers Can Learn from Sociologists, with Tony Campolo
  • The Greening of Youth Ministry: Why Your Youth Group Should Care for the Earth, with Peter Illyn (founder of Restoring Eden)
  • A New Vision for Middle School Ministry, with Mark Oestreicher
  • Communications Survival Guide: Making Sure You’re Connecting to Students, Parents, and the Church, with Matthew Penn
  • I basically plan to go and act as a sponge; I just want to soak up as much youth ministry information, tips, advice, and wisdom as possible. I’ll be taking lots of notes and blogging my reflections throughout the extended weekend.

    Introducing my first youth group

    Eikon
    Eikon, originally uploaded by jakebouma on flickr.

    When I worked as a youth ministry intern at Valley Church, my boss (and youth ministry guru), Brandon Barker, had an old picture hanging in his office of one of his first youth groups. I always thought it was really cool- in a nostalgic kind of way.

    Anyway, these are (most of) the kids in my senior high ministry, and judging by the picture, I think they really like me. I hope that in twenty years I’m still doing youth ministry and I can look back at this picture hanging on my future office wall with pride and joy.

    P.S. Brandon, if you’re reading this, can you refresh my memory on the story of the aforementioned picture hanging on your wall?